"AWARENESS in 60 minutes talk"

People, I have heard your request for a talk summarizing the main themes in living a happier, more meaningful life. I am proud to present "AWARENESS in 60 minutes talk". I will be giving these talks in Johannesburg and Cape Town and in various places across the world. I am also happy to talk privately for small or large groups at a venue of your choice. The time to really live in NOW - delaying results in unnecessary difficulties and living aware brings meaning and more joy. With the way in which the world in today, so intense and desperate, the workd of Thoreau resound louder in my mind than ever before...

"I went to the wood because I wished to live deliberately, to front only the essential facts of life, and see if I could not learn what it had to teach, and not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived"
Henry David Thoreau

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Lance

Giving up VS surrendering

When life hands you a whole lot of lemons and you can’t find the lemonade recipe…..

Many people think that these two concepts are synonymous, but in fact there is the world of difference between them.  Literally, the former keeps you trapped in this physical world and the latter opens you up to unlimited possibilities for good.

When we give up, we disengage from life, we detach from our outer world and shut down parts of ourselves (or all) and resign to the fact that nothing can change. And therefore nothing does change. If this persists, depression is imminent. At best, after a while, the initial intensity of the feelings starts to subside and we join life for yet another round…wounded and usually none the wiser.

Surrender on the other hand is about engaging with life more than before, opening yourself up to more possibilities. It’s about reminding yourself that you are part of a much bigger reality than just what you can see with your eyes. It’s the realization that you are part of a limitless universe filled with endless possibilities beyond human conception. Angelic realms and soul worlds and dimensions above space, time and natural laws. A place where your Higher self that knows exactly why you were created and why things are happening as they are resides (your GPS). And all this (and us) is connected to a Creator force (All that is) which is the source of everything. Just because you can’t SEE it all doesn’t mean it isn’t there. You can’t see electricity flowing through live wires…but you know it’s there.

The truth is that you are never alone and you never will be. To surrender is easier than many think but it’s foreign and therefore requires practice at first. All you need is an intention to connect with the higher world and gain assistance and guidance. All you have to do is ask. In your mind, out aloud, in writing. It’s just the energy of intention and asking that creates the connection that opens you up to receive. It launches the highest speed internet cable imaginable to the unlimited world of answers, guidance and assistance. It opens you up to all the universe has to offer. It allows for positive change.

What do you have to lose - giving up has no benefits! Take all the help you can get- this ain’t an easy place to live sometimes!

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Lance

Fears that arise in intimate relationships

More recently in my work I have repeatedly been reminded about the effects of unresolved and unconscious fears from childhood that cause recurring difficulties in intimate adult relationships.

The good news is that through conscious awareness (as is the aim of this piece) and with a desire for change and the help of interventions, resolution can take place resulting in healthy, intimate relating.

Two primal fears that arise in one’s early years of life, that if left unattended to, (unconsciously) negatively affect adult relationships:

- The fear of being abandoned (losing the other)

- The fear of being engulfed (losing oneself)

These fears arise in all of us at some time or another, but when they become so overwhelming that they affect our functioning they become problematic and cause havoc in relationships. Usually one fear predominates in intimate relationships.

Healthy adult relating is the capacity to commit ourselves to another without becoming terrified of being abandoned if they pull away or by the fear of being engulfed if they get too close.

What should be remembered is that the fear that one feels in a relationship is not just about that partner and that experience. It is in fact a re-enactment of very deep, longstanding, early let down that has never been acknowledged and healed. It seems that until one does so, they continue to attract people who re-enact this dynamic. The names and faces change, but it’s not before long that the dynamics are exactly the same as before.

Since the origin is our wounded inner child, the discomfort, fear and pain is irrational and may resemble overwhelming discomfort or dread- as was once a reality when we were completely dependent on another.

Ways that the fears play out in adult relating:

Sometimes we find ourselves in relationships that re-enact one or both of these fears and other times we find ourselves in relationships that allay these fears.

When a fear is stimulated we get an opportunity to resolve it or we become more engrained in it and continue to repeat it.

The truth is that an adult cannot be abandoned- only left, and cannot be engulfed- only crowded. A mature adult will communicate these feelings to their partner and find respectful ways to alleviate them. But until the terrified inner child is acknowledged and healed enough it runs the show and acts irrationally.

“You know a relationship matters to you in a healthy way when you are willing to act over the awkwardness of the small but scary steps that lead to change.” Richo

The opportunity that life gives us is the choice to expand ourselves…or not. Expansion leads to growth as a person, in relationships and ultimately more joy. Consciously why would we live any other way?????

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Lance

Where in the world are we? And what in the world can we expect in the coming months?

Background check

As we all know, everything in the world has a cycle; the moon, the seasons, birthdays, the tides etc. Similarly, the years also have cycles.

According to numerology (the ancient study of numbers), we can look at the numerical number of the year we are in and determine the themes that will be strongest during that year. There are nine numbers in our number system (all numbers are made up of 1-9) and the cycle repeats itself every nine years. Numerology has found that each number has specific attributes or themes. Furthermore, since we live in a world of contrast there are positive and negative themes of each number. Since we are active participants in our reality with free choice, we can, through awareness, choose to identify with the positive or empowered states of the numbers and invite those influences into our lives. We can also transform negative influences into positive through intention and action.

Where we are now

We are currently in 2012. This means that we are in a 5 year (2+0+1+2=5). The diagram below shows how the influence of the 5-year began last July (2011) and reached 100% this month. So we are now under the strongest influence of the 5.  As we move away from this July, the influence of the 5 begins to wane and the 6 (2013) slowly starts to influence our world. The strength of the 5 will continue to be felt until the influence of the 6 begins to take over after January 2013.

The positive themes of 5 include; adventure, reinvention (of self), living our truth, finding new ways of doing things, new ways of thinking about old things, questioning, rebel, maverick, movement (travel, career, home, place etc.), change, jumping out of the box, freedom.

If we were to summarize the number five in one word it would be ‘CHANGE’.

Now, if one is unaware of the influences of the 5, or is in a negative space, the following negative themes of the 5 may be experienced; chaos, confusion, anxiety, mental anguish, unfocused, deception, restlessness, ungrounded, impulsive.

Perhaps this explains what has been going on in our lives and in the world in general and is still doing so. Ultimately, it’s your choice- you can identify more with the + or the – states. Like I often say, “ Awareness brings choice, choice brings power, power propels change, change brings JOY”

Everyday brings opportunities for change…. choose joy. Focus on what’s right not on what’s wrong. Remember, whatever you focus on, you get more of!

Live inJOY why don’t you!

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Lance

From the creator of The Secret, Ronda Byrne

From The Secret Daily Teachings,

When you close your eyes and you visualize having money and imagine doing all the things you want with that money, you are creating a new reality.

Your subconscious mind and the law of attraction do not know whether you are imagining something or whether it is real. And so when you imagine, the law of attraction receives those thoughts and images as though you were actually living them, and it must return those visions to you.

When you are in the place where what you are imagining feels real, you will know that it has penetrated your subconscious mind, and the law of attraction must deliver it.

May the joy be with you,

Rhonda Byrne
The Secret... bringing joy to billions



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Gratitude- The simplest way of multiplying good!

The universal Law of Attraction is familiar to most people these days. Religions, Quantum Physics, Meta-physics and ancient mystical practices have all spoken of this law in some way or other. This is a tried and tested age-old law that is ALWAYS at work, weather you believe in it or not.

The law speaks about the mechanism of ‘like energy attracts like energy’.  And since we are beings with thoughts, feelings and behaviours (which are all forms of energy), whatever we give our attention to creates specific waves of energy that we send out into our environment. Therefore, if we apply our lives and this law to gratitude, whatever we think about and feel grateful for, attracts more of that to us. That’s why ‘”the better it gets, the better it gets and the worse it gets, the worse it gets”-Esther/Abraham Hicks.

You have heard many times, I’m sure, people saying things like, “you get what you give” or “what goes around comes around”. Well these types of sayings are all describing the Universal Law of Attraction. Even Sir Isaac Newton discovered this law and described it in his laws of motion, which state: Every action has an opposite and equal action or reaction. Therefore, if you give thanks for something, you will cause the opposite reaction of receiving more of that thing.  It’s kind of like a boomerang. And the more intensely you give thanks to something, the greater the amount of that thing you will receive back.  Unfortunately this takes place in the negative as well, which is the reason why we all need to be aware of what we are giving our attention to.

In a nutshell, if we consciously become more grateful for the good in our lives, the more good we will attract. It’s Law! No matter how big or small the thing we are grateful for is, if we connect to that positive experience, we are launching rockets of positivity into our environment which will in turn attract more of that thing.

Many people have manifested great lives from writing a gratitude journal. I quite like the simple yet effective basic exercise in the book The Magic by Rhonda Byrne as set our below:

It is best to do this exercise in the morning, so that it sets a positive cycle for your day, but you can also do it any other time of the day.

You can do the exercise in a book or journal, or type it out on your computer.

1. List ten things that you are grateful for and say why every day. It doesn’t matter how big or small those things are- it is the positive energy of that thing you want to connect with.

You can start your statements with something like:

“I am so grateful that…..” and say why….

or “I am truly blessed…….” and say why…..

or I am so happy and grateful…..” and say why.

Here are a couple of examples:

“I am so grateful for the car that I have because it takes me to wherever I ant to go”.

“I am so grateful for X in my life who makes me feel so loved”.

“I am so happy and grateful for the holiday I have booked so that I can relax and energize myself and have fun”.

“I am so grateful for the money I received today that allows me to buy the things I want and need”.

“I am so grateful for the money I have to pay for this delicious meal”.

It doesn’t matter if you repeat things on different days, remember, it’s the vibration you want to connect to that will bring more of that thing.

2. After you have recorded ten statements, read through them and say thank you thank you thank you (three times) and feel the gratitude for as much as you can.

3. Make your list of ten things every day. Later on, if you find that your day is going into  a negative spin, think of or write more things to be grateful for. Look around you and you’ll find many things. This will put your day back into a positive spin so that you can attract more goodness.

Here are some subjects to help you think of things to be grateful for:

Health  & Wellness

Work and success

Money

Relationships

Happiness

Love

Life

Nature

Weather

Material goods

Services

Any other subject

Adapted from The Magic

Create the life you say you want. Take any amount of things that are good and use gratitude to grow more of them. It’s law!

Happy JOY creating.

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Mirror mirror on the wall…..messages from our inner selves

Those who know me know that I am a firm believer in the quantum physics notion that we are projectors and the world is a screen. The Universe merely reflects back to us what we have projected onto it with our beliefs, hopes, dreams, fears and past experiences. Yes, we are creators of our movies we call our lives. Very often we are amazed by our experiences as they reflect back to us a judgement that is very different from what we thought we believed.

The experiences (reflections) that cause negative emotion are a sign that something needs further investigation and greater awareness and ultimately change…for the better. Gregg Braden, in his outstanding book The Divine Matrix states that “our relationships show us our joys and loves as well as our fears. But because we seldom become ‘stuck’ in joy, purely pleasurable relationships are generally not the triggers for the profound lessons of life.”

It’s in our Relationships that we are given the opportunity to see ourselves in every possible way. And since the majority of our minds are unconscious banks of experiences, our experiences in our relationships give us the opportunity to see what we TRULY believe about ourselves and the world and afford us the ability to make changes. After all we are products of families, communities, cultures, societies etc. that all impose their beliefs on us. Early, this forms the lens through which we see our world and thereby creates our reality.

Remember that we are ALWAYS having a relationship with something or someone, every wakeful moment- whether it be a person, an object, our thoughts or feelings.

To quote Braden who summarizes it so perfectly: “In those interactions, we’ll be shown the true reflection of our core beliefs. The reason? Our mirrors in the world never stop- they’re always working. There’s no escape! And the mirrors never lie.”

In a nutshell: The Universe provides a neutral surface that reflects back to us what we have projected onto it.  It should get you thinking ‘are we recognizing the messages that we’re sending ourselves as the Universe?’

One of the most valuable skills I constantly teach people is to become an observer of their lives, to become aware of the recurring themes that do not bring them joy and then to change them for a better reality creation. Remember that awareness brings choice, choice brings power, power propels change, and change brings JOY.

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A Secret Scrolls message from Rhonda Byrne

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The Inside Story - Your emotions are your guidance system

Your emotions are your guidance system. Learn to trust them more and listen to them! There are only two kinds of experiences- ones that make you feel GOOD and ones that make you feel BAD. We humans call them by many different names; joy, hope, excitement, happiness, love….anxiety, despair, sadness, doubt, anger- but these are only examples of the two states: POSITIVE and NEGATIVE.

If an experience makes you FEEL truly good, do more of it! If an experience makes you feel NEGATIVE it is a guidance from inner being that something you are involved in needs closer attention and observation and is not in alignment with what you really want for yourself. It is a sign that something needs to change in your life. Don’t overcomplicate things….it is that simple! Become an observer of your life- not a critic. See every experience as an opportunity for expansion.

Make some changes. Live in what feels good….live inJOY!

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You become what you surround yourself with

We all hear or talk about ‘energy’. Scientists and metaphysicists are constantly talking about quantum energy, spiritualists about spiritual energy, healers about positive healing energy and religious leaders about the positive power of prayer energy. What is all this energy talk?

Well, in summary, the entire universe is made up of energy vibrating at different frequencies. Everything in and around you, animate and inanimate is energy vibrating. Different vibrations represent various states of being like solid, liquid, gas or different colours. Our human bodies vibrate at different frequencies of energy, depending on whether we are in a positive or negative state, a state of ease or dis-ease. A healthy body has a high vibrational energy, a dis-eased one, a low vibrational energy. Emotions are energy too! Positive emotions like; happiness, joy, hope, fun, excitement have a high vibration, while negative emotions like; sadness, depression, anxiety, hopelessness have a low vibration.

There is a constant transfer or exchange of energy between ourselves and people and things that we come into contact with. These affect our energy vibration without exception.

Quick Self checklist

- Sometimes I suddenly get that exhausted, drained feeling

- My moods bounce around a lot

- I sometimes feel spacey, ‘scrambled’ in my head

- Sometimes I’m in a really good mood and suddenly after going somewhere or talking to someone I feel a bit down or ‘not so happy’ anymore.

- I get these dull, shut down feelings in my head

If you answered yes to one or more of the above, you could benefit from becoming more aware of things in your environment that sabotage or lower your energy vibration.

If an experience makes you FEEL truly positive, do more of it! If an experience makes you feel NEGATIVE it is a sign that something needs to change. It is a guidance that something you are involved in is ultimately not POSITIVE for you or that it will lower your energy vibration. It is an opportunity to ‘get back on track’!

A good place to start is to BECOME AWARE OF YOUR SURROUNDINGS. WHAT YOU SURROUND YOURSELF WITH AFFECTS YOU- ALL THE TIME, EVERY TIME!

Many people overlook this ‘easy to use’ exercise since they either don’t realise the effects that the environment has on them or because they forget that they have free choice to make changes to their environment to a large degree.

What you have around you influences your physical, emotional, mental and spiritual state of being.

Ask yourself: What do I have around me that makes me feel GOOD? And what makes me feel BAD?

Examples of things that DECREASE your vibration:

Negative people; Artificial light and air; News (TV, print and radio); Too much work, not enough fun and rest; Bland spaces; Environments that feel like “dead or bad energy”; Shopping centres; Chemicals; Electromagnetic fields (electrical wiring, cell phones, portable phones, computers); Stress; Remedy: The aim is to limit these and increase the POSITIVE list below in your daily life.

Examples of things that INCREASE your vibration:

Positive people; Putting things that you find attractive around you at work and at home; Love; Fresh air; Jokes; Comedies; Nature (plants, large bodies of water especially the sea); Natural light; Salt baths; Lying on the ground; Walking barefoot on the earth; Good news; Healthy food; Eating food you enjoy as a treat; Meditation; Massage therapy; Rest; Doing acts of kindness for others and yourself; Surrounding yourself with colours that make you feel good; Hobbies; Exercise.

Affirmation: I am aware of my surroundings and I make changes to have it energise me and keep me in a positive state. I surround myself with things and people that bring me joy.

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We all have a wounded child inside…but we all survived childhood….so become your own therapist- heal it and live inJOY! (Part 3)

The next part of healing the inner child is to ask your inner child, your little you, what would make it feel better. Sometimes he/she will give childlike wants and sometimes ‘older’ wants in a child voice- either are good!

Just a few examples of childlike wants: your favourite chocolate or food type, a new computer game, painting, drawing, a craft, dancing freely to music at home, a nap.

Examples of ‘older’ wants: A pottery class, a new book, art lessons, a cell phone accessory, a bubble bath with candles, a massage, a cappuccino etc. etc.

The examples are endless since each person will desire something specific. If for some reason the inner child becomes too demanding or irrational, for example: “I want 5 McFlurrys from McDonalds” or “I want to go home from work NOW” negotiate with the child as a loving, responsible parent would for their own child. Think of how you would have wanted to be treated when you WERE a child.

You might say “We can’t have 5 McFlurrys, but we can have 2 with flakes and we can park the car and go inside and eat them there”. Or, “We can’t go home now, but we can at 4:30, earlier than usual…and when we do..what should we get on the way home?”.

Let your adult part TALK TALK TALK to your little you…it has wanted to be heard and acknowledged FOR YEARS and YEARS and YEARS.

For many people this may be the first time they (their child part) has actually received something FOR NOT DOING ANYTHING….FOR JUST BEING….not for being good or quiet or getting good marks or for helping or tidying up or finishing all the vegetables or for being able to understand quantum physics by Grade 1 …NOTHING, NADA…other than just exisintg!

Hence the ONLY true statements about worthiness are:

“I am enough because I exist”

“I am worthy of the life I say I want BECAUSE I EXIST”

“I am worthy of a happy, healthy, prosperous, loving life BECAUSE I EXIST’

PERIOD!!!!

We are all a product, to some degree or other, of a lineage where you had to do or be something in order to be worthy of receiving something nice. We know our parents and grandparents meant well and loved us (in their own way), but they too were ‘programmed’ by their parents etc. etc. So we have generations of erroneous beliefs to change. The good news is that you can change generations of beliefs in a matter of days- YAY!

Once you have agreed to do something or get something for your inner child make sure you DO SO. Many children were temporarily pacified by being promised things that never materialized- goodbye trust and hello depression! This is a very valuable exercise in building inner trust and healthy excitement.

Be good to yourself! By the universal law of attraction, if you respect yourself and treat yourself well, your outside reality HAS to follow suit in time- IT IS LAW!

You cannot attract a vibration that does not exist in you or conversely you can only attract a vibration that meets the same one in you (usually a belief).

C’mon, I dare you to live inJOY!

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We all have a wounded child inside…but we all survived childhood….so become your own therapist- heal it and live inJOY! (Part 2)

Childhood is over, but you still have a wounded inner child (the ‘little you” that wants to be heard, acknowledged and nurtured. And like I said before, a healthy adult relationship cannot give that to you. So, the part of you that survived childhood and keeps you alive is the part that you can use to heal your wounded inner child. We’ll call this the ADULT part.

I have devised a simple method to mature the wounded inner child and have found it to be extremely successful. The more you use it, the more inJOY you’ll be!

It is a dialogue process between the adult and inner child part.

Generally, whenever you feel something ‘not good’ ,whether it be an ache or a pain or a negative emotional state it is a good idea to try this dialogue (this is very often the inner child expressing itself and needing nurturance).

Expect this process to feel foreign or silly or pointless in the beginning or that you don’t know how to do it. In time with practice, that will change. Your inner child has been communicating with you in many non-verbal ways, so the language will follow in time.

1. ASK + LISTEN

a. All you need to have is an intention to access your inner child/’little you’.

b. Ask it what’s going on…

c. And JUST LISTEN. At first you might here nothing or think that you are going crazy…but keep at it…and you will start to hear it express itself.

For example:

          Your adult part: “What’s going on?”

          Your child: “I feel sad”

Give your child permission to feel that way (often we were told why we must not feel that way or that we were wrong to feel that way…which invalidated us and caused more frustration and feelings of rejection. Or, our parents (they did the best they knew how) tried to change our negative emotions into something happy without acknowledging them, so we didn’t ever learn how to cope with negative emotion. Or we learnt that they were bad…or worse…that expressing them didn’t help- so we shut them down and DEPRESSED them).

2. ACKNOWLEDGE + EXPLORE (Think how you would lovingly deal with a small, upset child, or how you would have liked to have been talked to as a child and apply it).

Adult: “it’s ok to be sad”. “What are you sad about?”

Child: “I feel lonely”

3. REASSURE

Adult: “You’ll never be alone, I’ll always be here with you…we will always be together” – A very powerful statement that bonds the child to the adult part and begins an intimate relationship, sometimes for the first time. The truth is that wherever your adult goes, so does your child. So this is a guarantee of never being abandoned (again) that you can make to the child.

  

Feel free to change the words according to what feels right for you!

This is the first half of the healing dialogue exercise- the more challenging part. For now, practice these steps and next time we will complete the process.

Wishing you more joy.

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I saw this and I liked it

A Secret Scrolls message from Rhonda Byrne

Creator of The Secret

From The Secret Daily Teachings

Remember, if you are criticizing, you are not being grateful. If you are blaming, you are not being grateful. If you are complaining, you are not being grateful. If you are feeling tension, you are not being grateful. If you are rushing, you are not being grateful. If you are in a bad mood, you are not being grateful.

Gratitude can transform your life. Are you allowing minor things to get in the way of your transformation and the life you deserve?

May the joy be with you,

Rhonda Byrne

The Secret... bringing joy to billions

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We all have a wounded child inside…but we all survived childhood….so become your own therapist- heal it and live inJOY! (Part 1)

Nobody has had a perfect childhood.  This means that together with the good experiences, we also have had wounding ones. The difficulty arises since the wounding experiences continue to run in the background of our minds, unconsciously shaping our present reality.

Since none of us have had perfect childhoods (for a perfect reason spiritually I believe…discussion for another time), we all have a wounded child to a greater or lesser degree. If you find yourself not having a good day, or you keep attracting situations that do not bring you joy, or worse, make you feel rage, fear, shut down or panic….you can bet that YOUR INNER CHILD is running the show- not YOUR ADULT.

The undisputed basic law of physics says that: the entire world is made up of energy, constantly moving from one place to another, and that energy is never lost or destroyed, only transferred from one place to another! Therefore, all the experiences we have had haven’t just disappeared. Instead they formed who we are, and are constantly running in the background of our minds and lives, affecting our reality. So, eventhough you are an adult, there is still a ‘little you’ who reacts when something in the here and now resembles something that caused major discomfort (on any level) in the past.

So, in a nutshell, if you’re feeling something other than joy, it’s probably your wounded child wanting to finally be listened to, acknowledged and supported…possibly for the first time. Gosh- how determined for love and joy our little sad, angry or terrified child is!

Instead of ‘self medicating’ with things like food or drink or blame or denial or shut down or manic behavior….which only delays the opportunity for growth…rather HEAL IT!!! The truth is that if you are reading this, you survived childhood, despite how terrible it may have felt then (you probably won’t remember…you had to depress or suppress it to survive). And this ADULT part that can now do for itself, can help heal the wounded inner child who was helpless all those years ago and totally at the mercy of others and the world.

The good (and bad) news is that childhood is over…and you can never be re-parented by another again (not in a healthy way anyway)….but the part in you that survived and that can choose and work and drive and feed yourself, and get away and enact change is within you too.

So you are constantly in a partnership with your child and adult….and your child still wants to be parented! Be the parent your child always wanted!

So whatever it is you’re feeling bad about- you feel rejected, or afraid or ‘I’m bad’- it’s an opportunity to heal inside. And the more your adult part heals your inner child, the happier you will be. This is not rocket science- and it’s a lot easier than you think…all it takes is the desire to be change and be happier.

Always remember that you have a right to stay wounded or sick, just like you have a right to be happy and well. It’s just a matter of using your FREE CHOICE to change or not change. But since the reason for creation is change and expansion (my belief and that of millions of enlightened people over thousands of years), to not change is like swimming upstream…a constant battle. And the other thing I’m sure you’ve noticed is that ‘life’ repeatedly sends you the same lesson over and over. The names and places might change but the lesson stays the same, and when you ‘graduate’ over time, those lessons decrease or disappear all together. So, ultimately is there free choice? Or in order to be joyous in this world is change inevitable?

Wow- enough information for one day…in the next post I’ll give an exercise on how to dialogue with the inner child and HEAL it!

Destination: more JOY

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Anger vs Assertiveness

I find that many people do not understand the difference between anger and assertiveness. In actuality they are on opposite sides of the I AM EMPOWERED/ENOUGH continuum. Let’s have a comparative look at the two states of being:





So, it is clear that these two states of being are RADICALLY different!

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inJOY's intro

The aim of this blog is to promote self development. Whether it be ancient religions and spiritual practices, quantum physics, Kabbalah, self-help books, psychotherapy or holistic healing- the underlying message and goal always seems to be the same. In fact all the great authors of the self development era that we are living through- Caroline Myss, Gregg Braden, Esther Hicks, Deepak Chopra, Wayne Dyer, Louise Hay, to name but just a few of my favorites, are all talking about it- EXPANSION.

It is my belief that any thoughts, feelings or behaviors that are non-expansive to you or the environment defy creation. In fact, it seems that the entire physical reality that we live in was created to give the opportunity for expansion. And the good thing is that when you ARE involved in expansion, the outcome is something positive- whether it be miracles, meaningfulness, or inner peace. Ultimately, these are all aspects of JOY, which in turn causes more expansion….and more joy….and so it goes on.

In fact my aim is to increase the experience of JOY. We are all looking for more of it, and few people feel as though they have enough of it.

Somebody once said “we’re all looking for the city of happiness, when it’s all in the state of mind.”

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