Nobody has had a
perfect childhood. This means that
together with the good experiences, we also have had wounding ones. The
difficulty arises since the wounding experiences continue to run in the
background of our minds, unconsciously shaping our present reality.
Since none of us
have had perfect childhoods (for a perfect reason spiritually I believe…discussion
for another time), we all have a wounded child to a greater or lesser degree.
If you find yourself not having a good day, or you keep attracting situations
that do not bring you joy, or worse, make you feel rage, fear, shut down or
panic….you can bet that YOUR INNER CHILD is running the show- not YOUR ADULT.
The undisputed
basic law of physics says that: the
entire world is made up of energy, constantly moving
from one place to another, and that energy is never lost or destroyed, only transferred from one place to
another! Therefore, all the experiences we have had
haven’t just disappeared. Instead they formed who we are, and are constantly
running in the background of our minds and lives, affecting our reality. So,
eventhough you are an adult, there is still a ‘little you’ who reacts when
something in the here and now resembles something that caused major discomfort
(on any level) in the past.
So, in a
nutshell, if you’re feeling something other than joy, it’s probably your
wounded child wanting to finally be listened to, acknowledged and
supported…possibly for the first time. Gosh- how determined for love and joy
our little sad, angry or terrified child is!
Instead of ‘self
medicating’ with things like food or drink or blame or denial or shut down or
manic behavior….which only delays the opportunity for growth…rather HEAL IT!!!
The truth is that if you are reading this, you survived childhood, despite how
terrible it may have felt then
(you probably won’t remember…you had to depress or
suppress it to survive). And this ADULT part that can now do for itself, can
help heal the wounded inner child who was helpless all those years ago and
totally at the mercy of others and the world.
The good (and
bad) news is that childhood is over…and you can never be re-parented
by another again (not in a healthy way anyway)….but the part in you that
survived and that can choose and work and drive and feed yourself, and get away
and enact change is within you too.
So you are
constantly in a partnership with your child and adult….and your child still
wants to be parented! Be the parent your child always wanted!
So whatever it
is you’re feeling bad about- you feel rejected, or afraid or ‘I’m bad’- it’s an
opportunity to heal inside. And the more your adult part heals your inner
child, the happier you will be. This is not rocket science- and it’s a lot
easier than you think…all it takes is the desire to be change and be happier.
Always remember that you have a right to stay wounded or sick, just like you
have a right to be happy and well. It’s just a matter of using your FREE CHOICE
to change or not change. But since the reason for creation is change and
expansion (my belief and that of millions of enlightened people over thousands
of years), to not change is like swimming upstream…a constant battle. And the
other thing I’m sure you’ve noticed is that ‘life’ repeatedly sends you the same
lesson over and over. The names and places might change but the lesson stays
the same, and when you ‘graduate’ over time, those lessons decrease or
disappear all together. So, ultimately is there free choice? Or in order to be
joyous in this world is change inevitable?
Wow- enough
information for one day…in the next post I’ll
give an exercise on how to dialogue with the inner child and HEAL it!
Destination:
more JOY
Live inJOY!!!
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